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But as bad as all of those situations can be, in my own personal experience, one of the most frustrating places to be when you’re single is —especially in American Protestant churches. As a single guy, sometimes I hate going to church.(Just imagine he’s in a pew and you’ve got it.)Right now, some of you are saying to yourselves, “Oh, now, it’s not really all that bad in churches, is it? It’s not that churches don’t know they have single people.
Without this consent, a marriage does not really take place, even if the ceremony is performed and the marriage certificate is signed. The Church always presumes that marriages are valid until proven invalid Protestant marriages included.
Thus, the Church does not allow marriages to take place where one partner is divorced; she presumes that the first union is in effect.
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(Please see our FAITH FACT, “Divorce and Remarriage: The Church's Perspective.”) Marriage is intended by God to be a “perfect union of persons and full sharing of life” (Directory for the Application of Principles and Norms on Ecumenism, no. And so a perfect union is of its nature indissoluble.
The Church discourages such marriages as a rule, because “she is the most desirous that Catholics be able in matrimony to attain to perfect union of mind and full communion of life” (Paul VI, Matrimonia Mixta).Because every time I mention this around single people—especially single Protestants who have made it past their 20s—I always get the same response: wide eyes, vigorous nodding, and comments like, “OH MY GOSH YES.”See, American Protestant churches are great at supporting . We want to know how to deal with our need for companionship. We crave a community of people who won’t be too busy for us because of kids and family obligations.If you want to know how to be a better, more godly husband, wife, parent, or child, we’ve got you covered. We worry about what will happen to us in illness, old age, or dementia without a spouse and children to care for us.Instead, though, many of us attend week after week only to hear sermons about families and spouses and parents, coupled with lots of well-intentioned questions about when we’re going to find someone and settle down. Some of it is the fault of a culture in which churches are reluctant to hire single people as pastors.When the church’s top leaders are all married, they’re often just not as aware of the unique needs of the single people in their congregations. But somehow, single people aren’t treated as very valued in these churches. Share your thoughts and experiences in the comments, and next time, I’ll share what I think needs to be done.